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Thankful Thursday- Venting is Complaining

Much like my Making Whoopie website, I am going through bit of a makeover, myself.  I am trying to be more positive, a better parent, the best wife I can be, dream achievers\ and weight loser.  But one thing I notice is that I still complain about stupid stuff.  But, I call it “venting” and felt like it was an exception to complaining.  It isn’t.

Venting, or getting something off of your chest, is complaining.  Sometimes someone feels it is necessary to let off steam before they blow.  For me, I use it as an excuse to complain.  I need to just be a big girl and deal with it.  By not making it a huge deal, I am able to move on quicker and not focus on the negative.  I am finding that venting doesn’t serve me, but rather perpetuates the negativity.  I am ready to get to the next level of positivity and this is holding me back.  So, instead of venting, I am going to share something positive with those I generally vent with.  It may start out small or feel forced, but I have found that when I do something new, sometimes I have to fake it until I make it.  I have to go through the motions until it becomes genuine habit.

This is not a criticism of anyone else.  This is not me saying that this is right and you are wrong.  This is simply deciding to cut this habit out, much like becoming gluten-free.  I want to be complaint free.  I want to live a life that says to the world that I am grateful, happy and content.  I feel that venting is the last hurdle that I must over come.  And, it is something that I will always have to work on.  It isn’t a task that I will just check off of a to-do list.  It will be part of a life long happiness diet.

So, Monday morning instead of “venting” that my normal parking spot is blocked and I have to walk farther with a broken foot, I am going to focus on how great the renovations are going to be when complete.  It’s small, it’s forced, but if I make a conscious effort, it will become my true habit before I even know it.  I want to be that person that is referred to as the one who never complains.  Honestly, what do I have to complain about?  I’m married to my best friend, my children are hilarious, healthy and loving, and we’re taking steps to live our dreams.  What else matters?

My Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for reminding me that there is a much bigger picture and not to sweat the small stuff or complaining about it.  AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving:  I live in the coolest neighborhood ever.  I am thankful to be a part of such a great community.

When I have Kardashian Kash:  Sound proof walls.  If you have children, you’d want some too, at least in the play room and baby’s room.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Pumpkin Spice decorated like a jack-o-lanterns.  Cute and yummo!



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Whatever Wednesday- Permanent Smile

People used to always ask me what was wrong.  I didn’t know how to just be without frowning.  I’d get a haircut and the stylist would ask why was I sad.  I didn’t want to be perceived as unhappy or sad.  And now, I really want to show the world who I am.  I don’t want to be seen as unhappy.  I’m not.

I am quite silly.  To some, probably obnoxious, to others hilarious.  I want to be seen as that joyful person.  I am full of joy.  Joy for having a normal life.  Joy for actually feeling normal.  I know that normal is subjective.  For me, normal is having a somewhat predictable life.  Go to work, pick up kids, come home make dinner, husband comes  home, bathe kids and clean up, go to bed.  But I want to be more than just the predictable mom.  I have a joyful, but structured life.

Growing up, nothing was predictable.  My parents’ moods changed from one moment to the next.  What was acceptable one day, was a mortal sin, the next.  My Dad had money one day and none the next.  We moved every six months to a year.  Nothing was consistent.  My longest relationship was a year long and my best friend and I had a few times of estrangement, so not even my personal life was normal or consistent.   I continued these patterns of change and upheaval until I had Syd.  She grounded me, made me focus on our future and provide her the stability I didn’t have.

So I am full of joy at what seems like the mundane. But, it is so exciting to me.  Jeff comes home every night and we talk about our projects and the future.  The children show us their latest tricks.  While we are by no way perfect, I am perfectly happy with just being.  We practically do the same thing week in and week out.  After twenty years of the unknown, let me tell you how joyful I am at the thought of predictability.

So I am occasionally told to smile by my boss when I am frowning at my computer screen, but in general I try to walk around with a permanent smile.  Even on my worst day, it is far better than what it could be.  My worst day was probably losing my dad.  But, it was the day that I reconnected with family, and the day that Jeff had a professional break through, so it was bitter sweet.  And it led to me writing a short story about him and we just finished shooting the film adapatation of my story.  Sometimes I get into it with family or go months without being spoken to by someone, but at least it’s not years.  As long as I can find that “at least” to every situation, I can find a way to smile throughout the day.

My Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for not only showing me the “at least” in every situation, but for showing me the most.  Thank you for helping me to make the most of most everything.  AMEN!

When I Have Kardashian Kash:  I really need a llama.  I need some baby llama drama in my life.

Tomorrow- Thankful Thursday


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Thankful Thursday- power of your word part 2

Last Thankful Thursday we talked about the power of your words, and how the successful are those who proclaim that they will be somebody someday. By the way, I will be a writer and famous baker soon. 😀 But, what about the power of negative words? Have you noticed that people who say they have a family curse really seem to have one? Have you noticed that when someone proclaims something negative, it generally comes true? Here is my challenge that I issue to all of you: speak only positive things for the next month and let the readers here know what happens. I want to hear if it doesn’t work. I want to hear what does!

I used to say that I had a poor immune system and caught every cold. I also said I had extremely healthy children who never got sick. Guess what? I caught every cold and my kids rarely caught anything. Now, I say I am healthy and have even been told that my Stage III Chronic Kidney Disease is barely Stage I, now and not worth talking to a specialist about! This time two years ago, it bothered me so badly that I was seeing all sorts of specialists. But now, I am as healthy as a horse. Jeff never talks about getting sick and about how healthy he is. He missed work due to health once in the eight years I’ve known him.

Look at your own situation and your friends, coworkers and family around you. Notice who talks about never having money and never being able to get out of the hole. They always have the worst luck, right? If that is you, I challenge you to start talking positively about your finances. That doesn’t mean be a dummy with your money. That means quit saying, “when it rains, it pours.” Quit asking what else could possibly happen. When you ask “what else?” something always happens, right? Quit asking!

I can truly tell you that this works. Right now good ol’ Jeffro and I are finding that once something breaks and we fix it, something else happens. Once we refill our emergency fund, something happens to deplete it. So I challenged him to quit asking what else could happen to us. I told him to start talking positively about our house. He booked a couple of jobs since we started talking more positively. Not even 24 hours after I told him to quit cursing our home, he benefitted from his positive words.

You can be of any faith for this to work, so I challenge you to try it now. Give it a good month, and trust me, it is hard to get out of the negativity rut. Try it, even if you want to prove me wrong, please try! I challenge you to give it all you’ve got for a good month. This time next month, I will tell you about how prosperous we’ve become because we quit cursing our home.

This works with relationships, too. If you talk about how crappy your in laws are, probably not much room for improvement. Try looking for and talking up the good qualities in a troubled relationship. This is something we can all work on. I am guilty of saying Syd had a hard time adjusting. I became more positive and now she’s striving! I need to talk about the positives of Easton’s potty training! (Fortunately, I have the best in laws, for the record!)

Bad things happen. We have crappy relationships in our lives. Things break. My point here is positive words break negative cycles. It is truly like magic, although I truly know why this works ;). Try it, you don’t have to buy it, but try!

My Daily Prayer: Dear God, thank you for giving me only positive words to say. Thank you for helping me break the negativity cycle! AMEN!

My Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful for a happy and very healthy family that loves one another.

When I have Kardashian Kash: I will have hair extensions since my hair grows so slowly and false eyelashes! There will be other false items, too. Babies are hard on a mama. just FYI

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