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Whatever Wednesday- How do you do it all?

I am doing something I hate to do- skipping yesterday.  I was halfway through a post and my computer froze.  So, sorry.  I am realizing that I can’t do it all.  I really want to, but have to figure out what is most important to me.  I don’t know what that is.  So please indulge me as I go through what’s important.  I’d really love to hear how you prioritize.

I am slightly envious of my friends that can stay home with their kids.  But, I know my personality type.  I need structure.  Not that a stay at home mom can’t have a structured day, but I have to have my day structured for me.  I’m hoping one day I can be structured enough to work for myself, but that is still a work in progress.  It is a goal, and I am going to be ready to be my own boss when the time comes.

I want to bake, contribute to the PTA board, run a veggie co-op, blog six days a week, volunteer at my kids’ schools, sell Pampered Chef, host play groups, book club, and start a supper club (Grandma calls hers Gourmet).  How do you do all of it?  How do you fit in chiropractor visits, doctor visits (well and sick), dentists, vet, auditions, time to write book, while making dinner every night, reading, and finding a moment to play with kiddos.  Where are date nights?  Where is the family time?  Where can I find even a minute to play Words with Friends?

I don’t want to half ass anything.  I want to be the best mom possible.  I want to be the wife that my husband dreamed of always having.  I want to be the friend that always knows exactly what to do and say in every situation.  I want to be the volunteer that makes a difference.  I want to be the business person that makes a huge something out of nothing.  But, how do you do it?  I am working on my little things every day, but man.  Oh yeah, I want the super clean house and be always perfectly put together and fashionable.

How do you do it all?  These are all items I don’t want to compromise on.  My day job is so demanding that I have little left when I get home- time, energy, or will.  I haven’t even talked about wanting to work out, going to more movies and theatre, visiting museums, and hanging with my grandma.

I am certainly grateful to have a full time job.  I am thankful to have such a full life.  But I want to do it all.  I want to juggle it all and still have time to enjoy a Sunday nap or sleep in every once in awhile.  I want to stay up past ten and not feel sleep deprived the next day because I have to get up so early (for me).  Want, want, want, want want.  I know- I want it all.

But, if I didn’t want it so badly, then I would have no motivation to do something about it.  So what do I do?  What is my game plan?  Welp, that I don’t know.  I know that I have to keep plugging away.  I have to keep writing every day.  I have to keep baking and playing with recipes and techniques.  Keep hanging out with other mommies to see what works for them, and how they do it.

How do you do it all?  Or, do you let some stuff go until you do have time?  And how long will you put it off?  Syd is eleven and I have to drive her all over DFW a couple times a week.  Easton has soccer and soccer practice.  Q stays home with a nanny a couple times a week and at my in-laws once a week.  I probably spend over 10 hours a week transporting kids all over town.  I’ll continue shuffling kids until all are in grade school.  Then I will continue to take them to activities until they can drive- five more years until Syd can help.  So is that when I can do more?  Or, is this a chance to find a way to do something a little sooner?

Daily Prayer:  God, please tell me how to keep on keeping on.  Please lead me down your path, and alert me if I get off course or wonder about paths that shouldn’t interest me.  AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving:  I am thankful for the veggie co-op.  My kids asked for cucumbers when Jeff made chili dogs last night.  I am proud that my children love good foods.

Happiness Project Update:  I am getting up everyday, doing hair and makeup, but right now I am wanting more.  More time, more energy, more satisfaction.  I need to keep on track and just keep on keeping on.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Nutty Mommy- chocolate cookies with a hazelnut flavored filling.  Sweet, but a little nutty. http://www.makingwhoopieplano.com.


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Saturday Happiness Project- Tween Angst

My January resolution and Happiness Project is to focus on the little things.  If a chore takes a minute or less, like putting my shoes in the closet instead of leaving them in the living room, just do it.  Another is a daily ten minute tidy up.  I added my own, “tidy up with Syd”.  I can’t really assign a time to this task because she is a walking tornado.  I want to help her with her room and binder every night.  Every single night in January is dedicated to this task until she forms a habit to put things away on her own.

Last night was our first night.  Friday, she and Jeff had spent three hours cleaning her room.  So Saturday should have been a few points,  from me, to items that need to go in the hamper, trash or be hung up.  Night one of tidy up with Syd was two hours of utter drama and despair, but got it done.  I can not tell you how my little to-do chore of helping Syd tidy up was such a pure and innocent intention.  I thought day after day of repetition would help teach her some organization skills.  Instead, it turned into the biggest fight of our life.  It made me question this as a to-do item.

This morning, Syd apologized for her awful attitude and said we’d do better today.  We shall see.  I don’t expect to change her.  But I do intend to give her skills to stay organized and do the few things we ask of her so that she can get a cat around spring break.  Yes, we are bribing her with a cat.  I offer no apologies for external motivation.  I want to motivate her any way possible until it is something that is important to her.  I will be thirty two in a few weeks and struggle with organization myself.  I would be utterly doomed if I married a fellow slob.  I can’t count on her marrying a neat freak.  So, a nightly tidy up with a side of tween angst may be on the menu for the month of January.

For week one I have managed to wear full makeup everyday, do something with my hair, until the weekend, make my meals, tidy up, get up earlier, and not eat wheat.  I need to pull out my clothes the night before to further stream line my mornings so I don’t have to get up any earlier.  I am hoping that will make 5:25 AM wake up time work.  I really don’t want to get up any earlier.  I HATE getting up when it is cold and dark and anything before 5:25 is unthinkable.

So, I need to work on being on time a little better.  I had a piece of Hawaiian bread for communion.  Although they have a gluten free alternative, I couldn’t imagine asking my pastor to stop down and get me one for something so small.  I don’t think a bite once a month will be a big deal.  I also need to work on my Sydney tidy up time and make it a bonding time, and not a time where I am picking on her for being a slob.  Tonight is a new opportunity.

Tomorrow- Manic Monday:  Casa Mama

Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for guiding me on how to deal with a tween.  I pray that you soften her heart and hormones, help me to remember those days and give the whole house a little more humor when the times get crazy.  AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving:  I am thankful for when the going gets tough, my little family pulls together and makes things even better than before.

Kardashian Kash:  A beach house for last minute get aways and family vacays.

Happiness Project Update:  I need to make Sydney tidy up time more fun.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Nutty Mommy- chocolate cookie-cakes filled with a Nuttella-type filling.  Who knew crazy tasted this good? www.makingwhoopieplano.com

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