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Count Down to the Real World

Welp, Thursday will be here before I know it and it will be back to the grind. Three jobs, parenting, blogging, cooking, jogging, oh my. So, to keep it manageable and to make myself accountable to my little project, here, I am committing to writing Monday, Wednesday, Friday and maybe some Saturdays. That’s doable.

So today, I did a little vendor event for Pampered Chef. I am working on some fundraisers, one for American Heart Association and an upcoming one for melanoma research. You can contact me or check out my Facebook page, http://www.facebook.com/ThePamperedActors, if you want to check out our fundraisers. We have at least one a month, or we’re doing something for S.T.A.G.E. (a local actors’ resource center in Dallas). I spent half of the day with Syd. Man, she was a huge help getting me organized.

I am trying to follow Dr. Mercola’s recommendation of intermittent fasting and not eating until lunch. My goal is to keep a small window of eating time so my body has time to “fast”. Check out mercola.com and “google” fasting for the “why”. It makes sense, but I will not do it justice if I try to explain the technicalities. I do know that when I do this, I am less hungry and eat less and better. GOAL! So no breakfast, had plain coffee from Starbucks with some half and half. Shared some tacos al pastor with Syd (and chips, salsa, bean dip and queso), but we shared. Again, corn chips are my weakness and not sure how I’ll do it. I can and have given up bread and pasta, and wheat in general, but man- living in the land of Tex-Mex, how do I give up the corn chip? Maybe I don’t.

So, I’ve been walking with the neighborhood ladies at least a couple nights a week for the last month. The last two nights I’ve jogged, alone. Tonight I jogged 1.5 miles in eighteen minutes. Not bad for an out of shape mom of three. I enjoy the company of the walkers, but I’ve never felt better than running and listening to music. Let me tell you that Pantera is a better running partner than Owl City. Sydney and I share an iTunes account and I haven’t set up play lists on my new phone. So, I get a lovely mix of tween tunes and thirty-two year old mom music. The Cranberries aren’t a very good motivational group to run to, either. But, ah the memories.

For dinner, Jeff made bun-less cheeseburgers with watermelon, pickle, red onion and tomato slices. Organic veggies, no clue about the pickle, and conventional Kroger brand meat and cheese. Small steps, right? My kombucha has been bottled and is sitting in a closet building carbonation. My second batch should be about ready to be bottled. I am so excited! I think even Jeff will enjoy our bacterial-yeasty goodness. My SCOBY is getting HUGE, while my belly is shrinking- finally!

Eating well and exercise really helps with the stress. When I stay away from sugar, man I feel good. I am really hoping to keep this up when I go back to work to keep the stress down. In about two weeks of being off work, I think I am finally getting my stress levels in check. I think that is my biggest problem. I have a very high stress job in which I wear many hats and don’t know how to prioritize all of the many tasks I have. Then, I have my home based bakery. And then my new Pampered Chef adventure, that I love, and am working daily on building. Plus, my exercising and mom’s group and book club. I can not tell you how busy I have been just Making Whoopie, doing Pampered Chef, and playing house the last two weeks. And, I’ve had a family emergency that I’ve been dealing with in the midst of all of this. Not emergency, conflict, something that has wrecked havoc on my stress levels and really forced me to take some much needed time off. An expensive blessing in disguise. How’s that for a positive spin?

I’ve been organizing, trying to set up daily routines, and systems to make juggling easier. I want all of us in a good auto pilot mode when I go back to work. Jeff is an amazing partner, but a creature of habit. He is such a good sport, and does make changes, but it is not easy and I have to really get a new habit up and running before he fully embraces it. I guess we’ll see how well we’ve done, come Thursday.

So, what are your routines? How do you eat healthy? We have a wonderful veggie co-op in which we pick up a box of veggies twice a month (http://yourhealthsource.org/), but I need something like that for meat. I have the dairy down the street, but will I really drive over there for it? We’ll see! I really want to hear what you do! Will you introduce me to my next “kombucha”? My aunt introduced it to me a couple of months ago, and now I’m addicted. LOVE it. What else is out there that I’m missing? I’ve got to know!

Talk to you on Wednesday, my last night of sweet freedom. I guess I need to spin some more positive energy- my last night before going back to a new and fresh office opportunity. Go team.


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Thankful Thursday- Come on Be Happy

My motto this week is just do it. What’s a motto? Nothing, what’s a motto with you? Ah-ha. So I was tired of being stressed and unhappy. I wanted to be happy. So just do it. And I am. It is not perfect. Jeff and I still get into it sometimes, the kids still have meltdowns, and I sometimes over cook my cupcakes that I take to my ladies’ group. While my life isn’t magically perfect, my attitude is much improved.

How do you change a bad attitude? Just do it! I have a report due on Mondays, and it stresses the crap out of me. I am always short with Jeff if he calls me in the morning, and I do not wear my perpetual smile (i.e. it causes me to frown at my computer). And I got tired of it. So what can I do? I can’t quit. Quitting usually doesn’t solve anything. I have to do the report. I tried doing it on Fridays, but that didn’t solve my problem. I tried formatting it differently, but the powers that be didn’t like my improvements. I physically tried everything. Nothing worked. I was stuck doing the same stressful steps every Monday. What can I do? Not let it get to me. It is what it is, and I can’t do anything else about it. So why stress? It takes conscience effort, but I have been able to let it go.

I am a big fan of if you don’t like something, do something to change it. But sometimes it is not practical to quit your job and run away with the circus. So, what do you do? You make a plan, and you decide to make the best of it. Sometimes you need to blow off steam, but be careful not to fall into the habit of complaining all of the time. Your words are powerful. I hate my job. My boss is a jerk. This is so stressful. All of those sayings take on a life of their own and make your job or situation worse than it actually is. What are the good things that you can focus on? My coworker is so funny. We have an awesome Thursday lunch group. I have medical insurance that is WAAAYYYY cheaper than buying it on my own. By the way, these are just examples. My boss is not a jerk. I am quite lucky there. I did have a jerk boss once, but that is for a different day. Jerk doesn’t even describe that guy, but hopefully he has decided to be a nicer person- to himself and those around him.

Kids acting like little twits and getting under your skin? Change your attitude. They feed off of you! Imagine where they will be in four years, eight, ten years from now. Now imagine yourself in those times looking back at now and how you wished you would have savored it a little more. Makes the hundreds of “why mommy” questions a little easier to swallow, huh? Spouse not emptying the dishwasher as much as you’d like? Quit letting it affect you. Just like complaining doesn’t fix work, nagging doesn’t fix a relationship. You can talk, you can ask, but is it really an issue? Sometimes it is. If so, don’t nag, talk. Nicely. Your relationship feeds off of your attitude too.

Notice how when it rains, it pours? Part of it is the power of your words. The other part is your attitude. Everyone around you is feeding off of your negativity. Change your attitude and change the rest of your day. It is extremely difficult to execute, but once you put your mind to it and recognize your own negativity, it is doable. And the day gets better. The sun comes out, the traffic lights all turn green, and people open doors for you. Seriously- I dare you to try this for a week. Get positive for just one week! If you have drama in your life, choose not to. That is all it takes. Sometimes you have to examine your relationships, but your whole life doesn’t have to be dramatic. Choose not to have it. Seriously- choose to be drama free and see what happens.

It may not happen immediately, but small things will get better and better. It takes practice, and it takes consistently. Keep it up, and one day at a time and you’ll have a happier, less stressful life. It isn’t perfect or foolproof, but if you decide to have a good and less stressful life, that is the secret. Just do it!

My Daily Prayer: Thank you God for giving me the ability, within myself, to be happy. You are reason alone for my joy. Thank you for showing me my blessings, and giving me the tools to spread Your joy.

When I have Kardashian Kash: Family vacay- the whole extended family. Just one big happy.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the month- Mojito! Rum, mint, lime and a fiesta in every bite. It is truly five o’clock somewhere.

Tomorrow- Family Friday

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Thoughtful Thursday- Praying for an open heart and eyes

I know I was going to talk about my adventure of being a single parent of three for six days while Jeffro was in good ‘ol Marfa, TX, but I have something tugging at my heart. Have you ever had so much happen to you that you wonder what God, or the universe or whatever you believe in is telling you? I firmly believe that my words are powerful, so I do not say I am going through a time of bad luck or hard times or have bad luck. I am blessed. Truly blessed. But, sometimes we all go through challenging times for whatever reason. I am having one of those times right now.

This is no coincidence, lately as soon as we get ahead of the game something happens. We’ve never had that problem before, we always stayed ahead and could manage any challenge that we faced. Right now as soon as we conquer one challenge, another arises seemingly bigger and badder. Why? What is God trying to tell me? Why are my eyes blind as to what I am supposed to be doing differently? I am trying to be a more patient mother and wife. I am trying to be the best employee I can be. I am writing everyday trying to cultivate my passion. I cook, shop and coupon for my family. I am trying to be the person God wants me. I know He is leading me, steering me down some unknown path, but I don’t know where and it is very uncomfortable.

Here is what I want and pray for- more time with my children and Jeff, financial security (emergencies and home repairs deplete our emergency fund the second it is replenished from the last emergency or repair) and guidance as to what He wants me to do with my life.

But, my children have never felt a pinch and we always are able to take care of the emergencies. It always works out. I guess my faith is a little shaken right now, but I know better than to doubt.

I am a proud person. I raised a child on my own and never asked for help. But, circumstances are out of my control and it is all I can do not to say, “what else is going to break?”. I know it is temporary, I know that I will learn something or end up in a better place in my life. But right now I need my eyes and ears opened to see what it is that I’m supposed to be doing, learning, whatever. I feel closer to Him than ever, so I’m confused. This type of challenge usually occurs when I get off the path and need a hard shove back.

I just read a quote- and I paraphrase- like an arrow, the harder you’re pulled back, the farther you’ll go. My bow’s string is about to snap. Let go already. But, obviously I don’t know where this arrow is about to be shot so I just need to hold on for the ride and pray for a bullseye. I’ll let you know when I hit that mark. It will be soon.

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