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Thankful Thursday- TGI Don’t Work at Friday’s Anymore


I loved working at Friday’s when I was eighteen years old.  I really learned a lot about myself that year.  I moved out of my parents’ house on a whim, my only major boyfriend left to go into the military, and I was utterly alone yet surrounded by lots of new people.  It was a real test of character, and I didn’t do so hot most of the time.  But, it was an experience that made me who I am today.  I learned how to dress more appealing.  I learned the definition of customer service.  I learned how to take care of myself.  It took a long, long time, but eventually I learned how to be happy with myself and that I am worthy of a happy, healthy relationship that wasn’t long distance.  I learned what I wanted out of life, and not what I was told that I wanted.  I really found myself.

One night at Friday’s I was shift leader.  I worked with more seasoned servers, was the youngest person waiting tables and ready to tackle anything that came my way.  I was unstoppable.  Until that night.  I had tables from hell, someone complained about my service, I continued to get double and triple sat and just couldn’t catch a break.  The manager saw my utter frustration and let me go early, replacing me with not just another shift leader, but two shift leaders.  They made leaving hellatious.  I had to do extra cleaning than normal, had tables that sat and sat and sat and wouldn’t leave, and was bullied by these two much older (probably a whopping 25-30 years old) men.  It was utter hell.  I might as well had sucked it up and just finished my leader shift.

The past two weeks have reminded me of that night, minus the flair and free dinner.  Everything that could go wrong has.  I cried at inappropriate times.  I lost my cool in a situation that I shouldn’t have.  And, it wasn’t just one facet of my life, it has been my home, financial, family, work, you name it.  Fortunately,  my relationships stayed in tact, otherwise I am not sure that I’d be able to write at all.  When I think, “this is it!  It can only go up!”, nope- a new blow.  But, unlike my night at Friday’s, I am not quitting.  The bar closes at 2 AM and I am going to persevere until the last customer walks out the door and the last chair is put up on the table.  I am going to earn my free dinner, and the chance to boss everyone else into doing their side work.  I am going to show life that it takes more than a complaint, triple seating and bullying to get me down.  I may cry and complain to my close friends, but I will keep on keeping on.

It is almost 2AM and I see the end in sight.  We have new opportunities coming our way.  I am the new Environmental Board Chairperson for my daughter’s PTA, I have new amazing friends, Jeff and I each have professional opportunities and he and I become a stronger team every day.  That is my focus.  My children do something hilarious every day.  We can laugh.  We can snuggle.  We can at least enjoy each other every evening.

I watch my tween meltdown and she thinks everything is the end of the world.  Not being eleven anymore is enough to be thankful for!  Man, that is a hard age.  I am thankful that it is almost 2AM and tomorrow is a new day.  Even if something bad happens, it really can only go up and it can also be a whole lot worse.  I have so much for which to be thankful.  I am glad I started my Happiness Project or I would have completely derailed.  It is almost 2AM and tomorrow is my day off where I can sleep all day.  That is how I recovered when I was eighteen.  Now, I get up and have a cup of coffee and watch the news knowing that I am going to have a full day filled with hilarious moments.  Even on our worst day at this house, there is something funny and memorable.  That alone is worth it.

Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for being with me.  Forgive my whining and thank you for opening my eyes to the bigger picture.  You strengthen me through these exercises and for that I am thankful (if not at the moment, I will be soon).  Please stay at the forefront of my mind and guide me down your path and not my path of whining and giving up.  AMEN!

Thanksgiving:  If I didn’t duplicate Pollo Regio’s green sauce, I made some killer green sauce that I may just drink.

Kardashian Kash:  A full family tropical vacation sounds pretty good, right now.

Happiness Project:  I have been wheat free for a full month!  I have been getting up with the alarm for the most part, pretty consistent with full hair and makeup, doing my stuff at night, and staying on the small things.  These past two weeks have been a good excuse to not do it, but although I wasn’t perfect or ideal, I did okay.  That is better than I would have been in the past.  Go me.  I am thankful for the Happiness Project.  I would be in a dark, dark place without it.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Lady bugs!  Red velvet cupcakes with chocolate cream cheese frosting and Twizzler antenna.  http://www.makingwhoopieplano.com

 

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Thankful Thursday- Fake it til you make it


Lately, things have been pretty awesome.  Jeff and I have constantly been on the same page.  No fighting, no arguing, and generally feeling happy on every level.  Not that we fight normally, but none of the normal bickering that comes with everyday life and the end of a busy holiday season.  The kids have been good listeners, not sick, and a ton of fun to be around.  It has been peaceful and harmonious.  Then BAM!  I get a call to come pick Syd up from school.

Fortunately, it wasn’t a big deal, but it threw everyone off.  Easton was a pain tonight, Q was cranky, Syd acted like she is mistreated and Jeff came home in the foulest of moods.  What the heck?  So instead of giving into the negativity, I am trying to smile, trying to watch or listen to something funny, and trying not to yell or freak out.  I will not end this day negatively.  Am I perfect at this, no.  I have yelled a couple of times and given the eye to the kids when they were being gross at the dinner table, but I will end this night well.

Tomorrow- Foodie Friday:  Coconut oil and all of the possibilities and benefits.

Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for helping me to act the way I want to feel.  Thank you for helping me to be an example to my kids.  Thank you for keeping me positive when I don’t wanna.  AMEN!

Thanksgiving:  I am thankful for Sydney’s growth over the last year.  Middle school is hard and awkward, but she is learning to handle it with more and more grace and confidence every day.

Happiness Project:  I got up today when my alarm went off, even though I really didn’t wanna.  I worked out, even though I didn’t wanna.  I cleaned the house, didn’t wanna.  I went up and made sure Syd’s room was clean.  And I am writing even though I wanted to just watch TV and fall asleep in my chair.  If I keep this up, I will be on auto-drive and do it anyway.  Man, I am proud of myself and that makes up for what I didn’t do so well today.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Sydster Special- chocolate cookie-cakes stuffed with vanilla creme mixed with your choice of Oreo or candies such as Heath, Kit-Kat, or Twix.  http://www.makingwhoopieplano.com

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Thankful Thursday- Looking Back at 2012


It is really easy for me to get caught up in the craziness around Christmas.  We had something going on almost every single night from Thanksgiving until New Year’s.  We hosted Thanksgiving, Christmas, a Christmas party for our friends and attended at least four other parties.  On top of the fun and normal holiday expenses, we came home to a busted sprinkler that we thought had been capped off.  But having a plumber here until around midnight is not how I want to remember 2012.

January- I started the year walking everywhere.  I was the walkingest person in Plano, TX.  I walked to Syd’s school to pick her up.  I walked to the park.  I walked to Kroger and CVS.  The shortest walk was a mile.  At one point we walked like four miles (Sydney, Easton and me).  But I didn’t walk as a New Year’s resolution for 2012, I walked to get baby Q to exit her premises.  I was walking myself into labor.  Half way through January, I finally had baby Q.  She was almost ten pounds and like my other two, I opted to go naturally.  She wouldn’t descend, so we got a little help from some castor oil to get everything moving.  And move it did.  That may have been the grossest labor I’ve ever had.  But, it was fast, and I had my ten pound whopper of a girl after three pushes.

February and March- I actually had a real maternity leave.  I worked in a restuarnt when I had Syd, so I didn’t take off very long.  I took off four weeks to heal and was back on my feet.  I worked contract labor with Easton, so I worked out a deal where I worked from home after having him.  Quinnlee was my first real maternity leave.  Eight glorious weeks spent with my babies.

April- I returned to work.  I tried everything I could to stay home with Q, but couldn’t figure out what to do.  So, I went back to work while a brand new nanny came to stay with my brand new baby.  The nanny had pink hair, but was accepted into a PhD program in neuroscience, so hey.

May- Reno ate some “monsters” pills that you throw in the bath and they turn into sponge monsters.  $1500 stomach surgery.  Squirrels moved into our chimney.  A dead one fell down and Reno brought it into the house.   A few weeks later one was staring at me from behind the fire logs.  City of Plano came to get him and discovered his brother in there too.  All of this transpired during a tornado warning while Jeff was out of town shooting a film.  So thankful my mom was there to help me stay sane.

June- Vacation to San Antonio for Jeff to work on a film and the kids and me to visit my high school best friend and her family.  Schlitterbaughn!  Sounded like a fantastic idea, but we ended up riding one ride and spending the rest of the time in the kiddie pool.

July- Started Making Whoopie (www.makingwhoopieplano.com).  Created my menu and launched a website for whoopie pies, cupcakes and QT cakes.

August- Filmed the screenplay adaptation of my short story The Box.

September- Sent the Sydster to middle school!  Bought my first new car.  Broke my first bone; my foot (not sure how).

November- Syd sang with the Dallas Symphony Orchestra.  Auditioned for my first reality show.  Got a call back!  Got in a bus wreck on the way home from my call back and got my first sprained muscle; my shoulder.  Had a month of physical therapy.

December- Spent every night doing something holiday related.  Got my first HUGE order and made 40 dozen cupcakes one day.  Started my happiness project.

2012 was a whirl wind.  While bummers like a busted sprinkler pipe seem like the big items of the year, it really was much more than a few bummer moments.  We had a great year!  I am so excited to take 2013 up another notch.  I have so much planned from doing an open mic night, to starting a veggie co-op from my home.  Scared?  You betcha!  But, I will be able to say that I tried everything at least once.

Tomorrow:  Foodie Friday- Wheat, miles and miles of wheat.

My Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for helping me see the big picture.  It is easy to get caught up in a momentary crisis and forget how awesome life really is.  Please help me continue to see the big picture.  AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving:  I am thankful Jeff’s OCD ways may be rubbing off on me and how my laid back chillness is rubbing off on him.  It’s only taken nine years.

Kardashian Kash:  Insulated private bathroom where I can blast music videos early in the AM and (try to) dance myself awake and into a great mood.

Happiness Project Progress:  Although I got up when I had planned, I need to get up about twenty minutes earlier if I want to have time to blowdry my hair, full makeup, make breakfast, and be at work by 6:30.  No biggie, I’ll try again tomorrow.  I did everything else, though!

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Java Lana Chip- Chocolate whoopies with a Starbucks inspired filling.  Roll it in bacon to make it a Piggie Pie and a perfect breakfast treat.  http://www.makingwhoopieplano.com

 

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Thankful Thursday- everything happens for a reason


I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. The bad, the good, the mundane- it is all something that will help me later on in life. And everything always works out fine for me. It may be a rough go, but everything always ends up better than before. This isn’t just dumb luck. I try to make choices that will benefit me in the future, but I’ve made some dumb ones too. But, most of all, I always have faith that everything will be not just fine, but better. So after feeling sorry for myself for Sydney getting an ADD diagnosis, I pulled my head out of my A and started researching solutions.

I really have the best children in the world. I’m sure you do too, just for the record. I am so thankful that Sydney is so sweet, adventurous and hilarious. She is not afraid of trying new things, loves being the center of attention and is quite artistic. She is very emotional (but who am I to point fingers?), overly dramatic (again, that apple didn’t fall too far from the melodramatic tree, but don’t tell Jeff that I admit it), and gives up when the tough gets going (that is where the similarities stop). That last one baffles me. If something is tough, I may cry, but I will conquer it. Turns out it is probably the ADD and will get better when we either get her diet back on track or if we have to ultimately medicate.

I just bought a super water filter because I read an article from Dr. Mercola (www.drmercola.com) this morning that says a lot of our tap water has fluoride in it and it is linked to ADD, bone fractures, and many other ailments. So strange that I just fractured my foot from wearing my normal high heels, and Syd is showing ADD symptoms. It may not be the be all end all, but it is a good place to start. So I dropped some dough on that. I can’t disclose how much because a certain Jeffro already thinks I’m out of my mind for my new diet plan for us. I just went to Sprouts and bought gluten free snacks, all organic fruits and veggies, grass-fed beef, free range chickens, eggs and organic shampoo and conditioner. I cook most of our meals, and if we eat off of my plan once in awhile when we need a pizza or chicken wings, who cares? I’m shooting for 90%, that’s still an A.

So it sounds like I just spent a butt load on what I could have gotten for a lot less at Kroger or Target and now we have to filter our water, too? Here’s the upside: I am going to develop some family friendly recipes, find out where to shop organically on a budget, and how to make this the least painful as possible. I like to write, I like to share my experiences, and if it truly works, then why not write the book I cannot find about it? There is my silver lining! Finally, a book possibility that is near and dear to my heart and hasn’t been over-done yet. So, stay tuned! How funny is it that my bakery is all natural? Not yet gluten free, but I’m working on that next. I’m excited about this adventure! My ultimate goal is to make this change and my family not notice. The lady at Sprouts commented that I had a lot of snacks. Yes, I know how everyone loves crackers and chips for lunches, so I found gluten free lunch stuff. I love fruits and veggies, but we need something snacky ever once in awhile. So, small steps. Actually, big steps, but they will feel small to my family as long as Jeff doesn’t look at the bank account too closely. Initial investment- it won’t be costly once we get all of the initial vitamins, water filters, etc.

My Daily Prayer: Thank you God for rainbows. It is your promise that the flood is over.

Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful for the creativity to find a way to change my children’s lives and not being a slave to my smallish grocery budget.

When I Have Kardashian Kash: I will start my own grocery store chain that is only organic items so you can assume all oranges are the same.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day: Keep an eye open for our gluten free menu that will be coming soon! We’re playing with a natural sugar free alternative, too.

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Thankful Thursday- Venting is Complaining


Much like my Making Whoopie website, I am going through bit of a makeover, myself.  I am trying to be more positive, a better parent, the best wife I can be, dream achievers\ and weight loser.  But one thing I notice is that I still complain about stupid stuff.  But, I call it “venting” and felt like it was an exception to complaining.  It isn’t.

Venting, or getting something off of your chest, is complaining.  Sometimes someone feels it is necessary to let off steam before they blow.  For me, I use it as an excuse to complain.  I need to just be a big girl and deal with it.  By not making it a huge deal, I am able to move on quicker and not focus on the negative.  I am finding that venting doesn’t serve me, but rather perpetuates the negativity.  I am ready to get to the next level of positivity and this is holding me back.  So, instead of venting, I am going to share something positive with those I generally vent with.  It may start out small or feel forced, but I have found that when I do something new, sometimes I have to fake it until I make it.  I have to go through the motions until it becomes genuine habit.

This is not a criticism of anyone else.  This is not me saying that this is right and you are wrong.  This is simply deciding to cut this habit out, much like becoming gluten-free.  I want to be complaint free.  I want to live a life that says to the world that I am grateful, happy and content.  I feel that venting is the last hurdle that I must over come.  And, it is something that I will always have to work on.  It isn’t a task that I will just check off of a to-do list.  It will be part of a life long happiness diet.

So, Monday morning instead of “venting” that my normal parking spot is blocked and I have to walk farther with a broken foot, I am going to focus on how great the renovations are going to be when complete.  It’s small, it’s forced, but if I make a conscious effort, it will become my true habit before I even know it.  I want to be that person that is referred to as the one who never complains.  Honestly, what do I have to complain about?  I’m married to my best friend, my children are hilarious, healthy and loving, and we’re taking steps to live our dreams.  What else matters?

My Daily Prayer:  Thank you God for reminding me that there is a much bigger picture and not to sweat the small stuff or complaining about it.  AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving:  I live in the coolest neighborhood ever.  I am thankful to be a part of such a great community.

When I have Kardashian Kash:  Sound proof walls.  If you have children, you’d want some too, at least in the play room and baby’s room.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Pumpkin Spice decorated like a jack-o-lanterns.  Cute and yummo!

 

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Thankful Thursday- irresponsible


Today I reflect on my past job experiences and think about how silly, naïve, and thoughtless I was, at times. I am thankful that I can reflect on my inexperience and remember being a bonehead, myself, when my daughter does something questionable. I really am able to put myself in her shoes whenever Jeff and I ask, “what was she thinking?” She wasn’t! She doesn’t have the life experience to know otherwise.

My first job, at 16, waiting tables was a disaster. I tried as hard as I knew how. I worked my butt off. Looking back, I was probably perceived as lazy and uncaring. Truth is, I didn’t know how to take a hint or what was expected or how to think about others. This one lady was trying to train me and was showing me how she cleaned the salad dressing station and I said that it was so unfair that she had to do that herself. I didn’t realize she was showing me that my particular shift was responsible for that side job. So, I’d just leave when my shift was over. Clueless! Another time I was clueless was when I had a boss casually mention that sometimes if we’re running late, maybe we need to get up earlier or leave sooner. I had no idea that she was telling me that I was having an issue with tardiness. I look back and am so embarrassed at what a dunderhead I was.

All of that makes me remember what it is like growing up. That is how we learn how to be responsible adults. We make stupid mistakes. We are oblivious to the world around us. We are airheaded. But one day, it just clicks. Hopefully! And, then we see a whole world around us and that we are not the center of it, but rather a part of something much bigger. When we recognize our bigger part is when we are able to contribute to humanity and not take, take, take.

Maybe this is the approach I need to take with my tween. I need to show her how she is a part of a large family dynamic and that we’re not in Sydney’s world. My children are a huge part of my life, obviously, and I would do most anything for them. But I want them to see that there are others around them and they are not the center of the universe. I want to give them everything, but then they expect it and want more. I want to save them from stupid mistakes, but then they learn that Mom will bail them out. So today I am making the hardest parenting choice I’ve had to make to date.

Sydney is in after school choir, Pop Group. I am so excited that she is doing an extracurricular activity at school and making new friends. I saw on the FB page of the school that there is a concert tonight. So I asked Syd about it and she said she didn’t know, this was last week. I asked earlier this week, still no clue. Then Wednesday came and went and I never heard anything. Jeff found a note on our bed at 9:30 last night saying that the students had to be there at 4:55 today and that the concert is at 6. Well, on Thursdays, my in-laws keep the babies and Easton has soccer. Even if he didn’t have soccer, I wouldn’t be able to drive out and get them and get Syd back in time. Had I had a day or two of notice, I’d rearrange my schedule and figured something out. I can’t drop everything the day of and try to figure out how to get babies, get Syd to rehearsal, and go to the concert with two babies and soccer. So, I am doing the hardest thing ever and teaching her that if you are not going to give me a heads up, then I can’t stop down and accommodate you. I am not bailing you out of this one, and you have to explain what is going on to your teacher. If it were a class and counted as a grade, I may call in some favors to my family to help me, but it isn’t and she has to learn to communicate and be responsible.

How do you teach your child consideration? Do they have to learn the hard way, like this? Does it depend on the child? Right now, she just expects me to take her to whatever activity and to know her schedule. In general, I know her schedule, but I don’t with this new choir. It is her thing and unless she brings something home to me, how would I know? But, do not bring me a note at 9:30 PM and expect me to change the whole family’s evening because you didn’t find out sooner. Find a way to get the info. Ask the teacher, ask the other students, and keep asking until you do get an answer. Don’t wait for the night before. If it were one of my babies, no problem. I did a lot of scrambling when Sydney was younger. But, now that she is older, it is her job to let us know what is going on well in advance. But it hurts my feelings that she has to miss out. I want to do it all so badly, but then what does that teach her? I don’t want her to learn that this is acceptable. She has no inner drive to do whatever tasks needing to be done or making sure plans are solidified. We have to remind, follow up, and remind some more. I’m done. We’ll see how that goes!

My Daily Prayer: Thank you God for opening the eyes of my heart to you, Lord. AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful that my biggest problem with my kid is poor organization and communication about extracurricular activities. It infuriates me, but it could be a whole lot worse and she really is a very special kid.

When I Have Kardashian Kash: A personal shopper and stylist would be pretty cool.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day: Red velvet- how are they so red with no Red Dye 40? Hmmmmmm…tasty, too!

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Thankful Thursday- more than just a little sleepy


I am thankful for a job for which I have to wake up every day. I am thankful for children who give me a reason to get out of bed. I am most grateful for a husband who pushes me to be all that I can be. Most of the time, it is mind over matter, but sometimes stress adds to a depression that makes it next to impossible to shake. It rarely hits me anymore, but when it does, nothing can shake it.

I am not a therapist or doctor. The comments made here are simply what works for me and my experience. I don’t advocate not taking medication or seeking treatment. I’ve done both and know what works for me. What works for me is getting up every day before 9AM, even on the weekends. During the week I am at work by 6:30AM, so this isn’t a problem. I have a baby who won’t let me sleep in on the weekends, but Jeff will let me sleep an extra hour or so. If I sleep past 8 or 9AM, my day is toast. If I take a nap, it is never just a power nap, but turns into a three hour ordeal. If I get too much sleep, I can’t function and crave even more sleep. If I get too little, I am scattered brained and get sick easily. I have to have that perfect balance or it throws my whole life out of whack. This may sound melodramatic, but it is something I’ve dealt with my whole life.

I went to the doctor for chronic fatigue and he was quick to tell me I was depressed and diagnosed antidepressants. Although I do have a history of depression, I don’t think throwing medication at me is the answer. I have found that adjusting my sleep schedule is the biggest part of my “treatment”. Diet and exercise are another huge portion. I become anemic easily, so I have to watch my iron levels. When they get low, I am in a fatigued fog and feel low. If I eat too much sugar or carbs my blood sugar spikes, then drops and I feel like I can’t go on without a nap. So, I’ve changed my diet to be mainly veggies and protein. I watch my intake of carbohydrates and feel so much better when I eat right, and get the right balance of sleep.

A lot of my depression therapy is mind over matter. I have to force myself up in the mornings every day, and then I’m fine. I have to decide to just do it. And knowing this about myself is half the battle. More than half, it is 95% of the battle. 5% is outside of my control. Maybe even less than 5%. If any more of it were out of my control, I’d seek professional help. Since I have control of more than 95% of my depression, I can live with that. My family can live with that. It isn’t so bad it affects my life every day. But, sometimes I get so stressed that I can’t function. It causes me to get sick, horrible headaches, stomach aches, and so tired I can’t open my eyes. I am thankful that I don’t get to that point very often. Mostly it is because I’ve decided not to let things affect me, and to have a positive attitude. But, I am human and I do get stressed from time to time. Normally, Jeff and I can bounce things off of each other and figure it out together. But sometimes it is too close to both of us for either of us to effectively speak to each other. It is frustrating when this happens because he is my go-to guy, but sometimes we need to talk to someone not so close to the problem. My favorite thing about him is that we can figure anything out together. My biggest frustration with him is that if we are equally as stressed about something, it causes a bigger problem than it has to be. But knowing is half the battle and something that we always work on.

This is really hard for me to share. I like to think of myself as invincible and that nothing gets me down. But, I do have a major weakness. It scares me to talk about it, but I have got to quit being afraid of it. I’ve got to quit giving it power by being in denial. I know the steps to take to keep it in check. I know that stress exacerbates it. I know how to avoid it. It may sound like no big deal to anyone who has never dealt with it. Just get out of bed, right? But it isn’t that easy. I am SO fortunate that I wasn’t hit with post partum depression. I thought for sure I’d have it. But I know how to keep it at bay and I think that is what helped me from having full out Baby Blues. It is not something that one can always control. There are different levels and it is a chemical imbalance. It is very real and not something to be judged by anyone who hasn’t experienced it for themselves. I am SO thankful that mine is controlled by a “just do it” attitude. But for many it is not. Please keep this in mind when you run into these individuals. They need your love and support more than anything. We don’t need enabling, that is the worst thing for us, but we do need some understanding and kind nudging from time to time.

If you feel like you may be suffering from depression, seek some counseling. Sometimes talking it out helps. From there, you may be referred to a doctor for medication. Sometimes something as simple as diet and exercise can help. Don’t avoid medication just because you feel stigmatized. If there ever comes a time where I cannot function optimally, even a hippie like me will get medicated. I pray I don’t get to that point, but it isn’t the worst thing in the world. You’re not only taking care of yourself, you’re protecting and helping your family. Depression isn’t something that you suffer from alone. It affects your family and everyone around you. If you can’t seek treatment for yourself, seek it for those around you. They will be eternally grateful, and once balanced, you will be too!

My Daily Prayer: Dear God, thank you for illuminating my weakness and helping me deal with it and not hiding from it. Thank you for being there when I feel hopeless and showing me that it is just a momentary blip in my positivity. Thank you for better tomorrows when my todays are not so great.

Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful to be able to talk anything out with Jeff, and grateful how he pushes me to be a better me.

When I Have Kardashian Kash: I really want one of those upside down, anti gravity machine thingies. I think that would feel phenomenal on my back.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day: Pumpkin Spice! Cupcakes, whoopies, oh my! It’s the most wonderful time of the year! (Don’t worry, I’m really excited, not manic.)

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Thankful Thursday- Friends


I make friends pretty easily, but don’t have a ton of life long friends.  After sixth grade I moved away from the friends I had known since first grade to Lago Vista, TX.  I started seventh grade there and moved after just six weeks.  In that six weeks, I played french horn and met a girl that ended up working with me at Jim’s in San Antonio when we were eighteen.  Small world.  From there, we moved to Round Rock.  I went to Deer Park Middle School for the rest of the year before moving to San Antonio.  I have connected with some of those friends on Facebook, but don’t really keep in touch.  I moved to Benchmark Way, in San Antonio.  I lived there throughout eighth grade.  That summer we moved to Boerne.

I went to Boerne High School for two and a half years.  In that time, I moved three times.  Halfway through my junior year, I moved back to Benchmark Way and finished my high school career at Churchill High School, and reconnected with some of my middle school buddies.  I still see my best friend from Boerne once ever couple of years, but haven’t seen my Churchill friends in years.  I get friend requests, tagged in pictures and occasionally get a Like or comment on Facebook from these folks.  They are a staple on my Words with Friends and Draw Something lists.

I moved south of Fort Worth after high school and lived there for about six years before meeting Jeff.  He and I lived in Arlington for a year and then moved to Dallas.  We lived in Dallas for five years.  That is the longest I’ve ever lived in one home besides the one I lived in when I went to middle school.  Since I moved away from my territory south of Fort Worth, it felt like our friends were really his friends and that I didn’t have any of my own.

As you know, I am big on the power of the word.  I wrote that I really wanted some friends of my own.  I needed something outside of Jeff.  He has life long friends and I can’t vent to his besties.  I love hanging out with his best friend and wife, and consider them my own friends, but I can’t whine and moan to them if I’m having a bad Jeffro day.  Not that I ever need to talk crap about my favorite Jeffro, but hey.

Now we live in Plano.  One of my work friends came to work with me, so we talk daily and go to lunch.  My neighbors on either side of my are a year older and a year younger and we were all pregnant at the same time.  There is a neighborhood mothers’ group in which we have weekly playgroups, monthly meetings and ladies nights out.  I have a community now!  One of the moms even works with me and has a son a day younger than Easton.  It is so weird how badly I wanted my own group and now I have WAY more than I could ever ask.  I am SO thankful for these ladies and am excited to build these relationships.  We even joined the local church where a lot of my neighborhood attends.  It is so awesome to have a community of friends.  And, my children will grow up with theirs.  We can watch out for each other as far as what our children are doing, an unofficial neighborhood watch and we have a network of mommies to help support each other in various ways.

I am thankful for my new friends.  I am grateful for Jeff’s friends who have taken me in as one of their own.  And, I am thankful to be in a neighborhood in which my children can build life long friendships.  I didn’t even talk about book club or PTA.  I am trying to be more involved so that I can make even more friends with families of children Syd’s age.  Book club is a ton of fun, but I have not been as diligent with my reading or attendance due to my reading of various how-to baby books.

My Daily Prayer:  Dear God, please cloak me in love and accessorize with kindness, compassion, patience and empathy.  Help me to keep my heart open to all of your children.  Even when it is early in the morning and I am a little cranky with those who cannot park very well.

Daily Thanksgiving:  I am thankful for all of my new friends!

When I Have Kardashian Kash:  I will be crafty all the time.  I will have a room dedicated to my crafting and time to create everything on Pinterest that I care to create and no material or utensil will be out of my budget.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day:  Check out our pumpkin flavors coming soon!  MMMMM…pumpkin.

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Thankful Thursday- Chores


I am thankful that my three year old is such a neat freak. I’d be royally screwed if he weren’t. He is all about doing it himself right now, and most of the time that is super helpful. When it is faster for me to do it for him, annoying, but most of the time it is a Godsend. I am super thankful for two kids that can do most things for themselves, and help me out when I am stuck changing a diaper, bathing the baby or anything else where I can’t turn my back for a second.

Easton picks up the living room every evening before we eat. He can’t help himself. He starts shaking if things are messy. He FREAKS out if Q grabs something of his because he doesn’t want her to slobber on it. The drool makes him nuts. And he doesn’t like that she can’t pick up after herself when she goes into his room. He’d rather they all play in the play room or in the living room. That doesn’t cause as much distress.

Syd is driven crazy that Easton doesn’t have any real chores. But he’s three! And, he has a daily to-do list. His list includes brushing his teeth, getting dressed, making his bed, picking up, feeding the dog, and not screaming. He generally puts up the silverware when she’s unloading the dishwasher. I’m not sure what else she wants. Syd’s chore list includes the same as Easton’s, but instead of screaming it’s crying, then there’s homework, make lunch, and has a weekly chore list of emptying dishwasher, pick up dog poo, empty recycle bin, clean glass tables, fold her clothes and clean her bathroom. Most days, she only has one big chore to do. Left up to her she’d do them all on Saturday and get nothing else done. She thinks she has a lot to do. And it’s not nothing. I want her to know how to do these things when she is working, in college, married and so on. I can’t tell you how many of my friends, myself included in some of this, don’t know how to organize, never make their beds and had to learn how to do laundry in college. I’m lucky to be married to a neat freak. Maybe that’s where Ebro gets it.

What chores do your children do? What did you do as a kid? Remember that the more you comment the more chance you have to win an I Heart Making Whoopie bumper sticker. We will be choosing a random commenter this week!

As a child I cleaned my room when I was told to, I made dinner when I was hungry if no one was home, made my own lunch and breakfast, folded towels or family’s clothes when I was told to, cleaned the kitchen when I was told to, and didn’t have anything super consistent. Sometimes I had a ton of chores, sometimes none. Sometimes my parents got mad that I didn’t do anything, other times things were fine. I had no clue what to do. I vacuumed pretty regularly and cleaned the kitchen every night, come to think of it. I don’t want Syd to have inconsistent rules or not know what the expectations are. I want her to know right now that leaving a trail throughout the house is no bueno. Leaving clothes on the floor or wet towels on the bed- nope! They have a place. I don’t want her to be shocked when I expect that from her at 19. She needs to know now. And same with Easton and Baby Q. They will have the same expectations. And if they want to give their allowances to each other to do the other’s chores, go for it. I don’t care- here is what you are supposed to do, just get it done without me having to remind you. It gets better and better every day, but sometimes I wonder why they don’t think they have to do anything to help out.

My Daily Prayer: God, please touch those in authority and give them guidance. Lead them down Your path and help them make good decisions. AMEN!

Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful for my mini neat freak and my mini me.

When I Have Kardashian Kash: Right now I’m disgusted at the price of high fashion. I wonder if I’ll still feel that way. I’m okay spending a some money on shoes, when I have it, but thousands for a piece of clothing or purse seems redonkulous. I can’t wait to see if I still feel that way.

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Day: Java Lana Chip Whoopies- Chocolate cookie/cakes filled with a Starbucks inspired filling.

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Thankful Thursday- Glorifying God


One of my Facebook friends, my daughter’s best friend’s mom, posted something that sums up everything I believe in. “Yes I’m a Christian. Yes I can be the biggest hypocrite ever. I backslide. I stumble. I fall. I stray onto the wrong path. But God is working in me. I may be a mess, but I’m His mess. And He is slowly straightening me out. And the day will come when I will be on His side, His work in me completed. And until that day I will take His hand, and let Him do in me whatever needs to be done, no matter how painful it will be for me. When He is finished, it will all be worth it.”

How can I add to that? That sums it up beautifully. Talking about it has been hard for me. I have a ton of agnostic and even atheist friends. How do I talk about the Way, Truth, and Life? How do I tell them that the only way to God is through Jesus Christ? How do I maintain a friendship with someone with polar opposite views than mine? I am accepting of their beliefs, but so afraid to share mine. I am so afraid of being judged. I am afraid of losing that friendship. But, I should be afraid of losing them forever.

I’m no crazy, and I’m no zealot. My friends know my religious background and that my dad and stepmom were very forceful with their beliefs. They were extremely religious and a little frightening, at times. I don’t want that stigma. I admit it! I don’t want to be judged or put in a situation that doesn’t feel good.

But I feel a calling. I feel that it is time for me to share what is true to me. And, I feel that I should not only tolerate it, but like it. I have been given certain gifts and talents. I doubt God gave them to me just to make me feel good. Or just to do as a hobby. I am pretty certain that God gives us gifts and talents to glorify Him. To spread His word. To better His world.

I have always struggled to find my “calling” and talents. I can easily see everyone else’s gifts and think they are silly for not using them more. But, it is hard to look at myself and see what mine are. It is hard for me to admit mine. What if I am not as good as I think? What if I am blind to my true calling? What if, what if, what if. I am called to write. So, I write. I am called to bake. So, I bake. I am called to go into work Monday through Friday. I go and try to have a good attitude. Sometimes I fall down with complaints and envy that I am not a stay at home mom, full time baker or writer. Sometimes, I am a hypocrite by telling others to have a good attitude and just decide to live in the moment like it’s your last, but then my attitude sucks. Sometimes, I don’t try. Sometimes, I give up. But, I always try again. I realize all of this. And I get scared that I am a hypocrite and an awful person. But, then I am reminded of God’s grace and that tomorrow is another day to live in a way worthy of His grace and love. I’ve heard that all my life, but it never really registered. Now it has. I will never be perfect, but I can keep trying to live in a way that glorifies God. And by accepting His love, that is all I need.

My Daily Prayer: Thank you God for my gifts and talents. Thank you for using me in a way to glorify You. Thank you for forgiveness and perseverance. AMEN!

My Daily Thanksgiving: I am thankful someone even reads this.

When I have Kardashian Kash: I will bake with Martha Stewart, just cause.

Tomorrow: Family Friday, first week of school!

Making Whoopie Flavor of the Week: Amish Paradise- like an Oreo, but not.

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